Don’t marry career women – They Bite!

I puked when I read this article, but not before I said wtf. [Via Feministing]

Guys: A word of advice. Marry pretty women or ugly ones. Short ones or tall ones. Blondes or brunettes. Just, whatever you do, don’t marry a woman with a career.

Why? Because if many social scientists are to be believed, you run a higher risk of having a rocky marriage. While everyone knows that marriage can be stressful, recent studies have found professional women are more likely to get divorced, more likely to cheat, less likely to have children, and, if they do have kids, they are more likely to be unhappy about it. A recent study in Social Forces, a research journal, found that women–even those with a “feminist” outlook–are happier when their husband is the primary breadwinner.

I suppose everyone has a right to their opinions. But Forbes just lost a lot of potential customers. And not just the female ones. Glancing at the message board for the article, it’s pretty obvious that a lot of readers thought it was a pile of crap. I think the sort of men that I know and respect would be equally appalled by the shit that is passed around as research. Now, what I really want to know is if there is a similar list for women married to career boys. You know, the kinds who go to office and think the clothes fold themselves? Articles like these bring most men such a bad name that they cannot handle a confident, self-assured and independent spouse. Feministe has a wonderful response titled “Why you should marry a doormat“.

And of course this can be solved if the husband picks up a broom, but that’s clearly a laughable idea. Because men, apparently, are idiots and slobs. And they say feminists have animosity towards men? I’m gonna go ahead (yet again) and point out that it’s the people who cling the most desperately to traditional gender roles who seem to have the dimmest views of men and their individual capabilities, and who consistently image them as emotionally stunted, incapable of caring for themselves, and highly animalistic. I think it’s about time that men started asking themselves who their actual allies are, and who’s willing to stereotype them as cavemen and morons in order to maintain a social structure that privileges them.

UpdateBoingBoing has an update on Forbes pulling the article down. It’s sort of funny really.

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0 Responses to Don’t marry career women – They Bite!

  1. Falstaff says:

    I have to say that articles like this, ridiculous though they are, have the somewhat Panglossian virtue of enhancing the efficiency of the relationship market. Guys who buy this crap will self-select out of relationships with successful / independent women, which is good for the women and good for those who do want to be in relationships with these women and don’t need the competition from ultra-rich Forbes reading types. *strong note of empathy*

    Also, it’s interesting that the article claims that women are happier in relationships where the husband is the primary bread winner – but doesn’t actually tell us if men are, which, from the sexist view point of the article, would seem to be the more relevant point.


  2. Nilu says:

    Where is my credit? I own the copyright to all puking.


  3. Amit Agarwal says:

    Your pressure worked 🙂

    According to CNet, bowing to blogospheric criticism, Forbes deleted two articles from its Web site on Wednesday, one of which was titled “Don’t marry career women.”


  4. Nilu: Puke Plagiarism. 🙂

    Amit Agarwal: Heh! I see that they’ve given it the twist of a debate now. But that piece was a complete disaster.


  5. Mind Curry says:

    i have seen this issue in kerala, where the literacy and social development is supposedly high, women are a persecuted lot. and i think the answer is obvious: unless women have financial independence, there wont be any real improvement in their condition.

    so down with all the people against career women: maybe they just want dolls.


  6. Rezwan says:

    I cannot believe it, the article coming from Forbes. I guess they tried to balance it with the counterpoint article but didn’t come close.

    Mine can be a classic example of how a womens career can bring a challenge to a South Asian family. My wife, a career diplomat, had rejected career related foreign trainings and scholarships for being with family and having a child. Then it it was my turn to repay the favor accompanying her to a foreign posting giving a break to my established career. It is a challenge to confront the desi relatives who have not faced an instance like this where the husband sacrifices his career for the wife, they have accustomed with the vice versa situation. But to me family is about being together, sacrifices and compromises are part of the game. Being away can create so many inconveniences and in the end can ruin a marriage.


  7. GG says:

    Check out the rebuttal article now on Forbes.


  8. Vidya says:

    Ah well what do you expect from the guy who wrote this?
    Economics of Prostitution

    Unfortunately business magazines assume that they are talking to the majority of their consumers.The day they think they have money coming in from their women readers they will make sure they appease them too!! Such is the prostitution of economics (pun intended)..


  9. prope//er says:

    Update – BoingBoing has an update on Forbes pulling the article down. It’s sort of funny really

    It looks like we have a repeat of the Larry Summers episode here. Yes, you don’t agree with what the guy has to say but it doesn’t mean Forbes has to pull it down.


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